Once you know this emotional sickness, you’ll see it everywhere. It is lodged in dysfunctional families and governments. The people/citizens are codependent who accept it. They emotionally fuse themselves to the codependent so that they don’t know where their own identity begins. They don’t know who they are. And the cycle continues in that gaslighting experience. And the victim becomes more like gollum every day, disarmed in an emotional cave, unable to grow up and own their space.
Wow, you are expanding my understanding of codependency! I’m seeing how my thoughts have been so limited. In the example of a drug addict family member, my understanding was that the codependent is the helper and enabler, not so much as the controller. But now I’m seeing the control part! 😧 Thank-you.
Yes!! Excited to hear how your view is expanding. I think your understanding is exactly where we start to see how this emotional disorder works. We can identify it. But it didn’t pop into existence nor does it go on without maintenance. If the codependent has nobody to help and enable, they will create someone to help and enable. They defend the weakness of the weak at all costs. Sabotage is their game! And the cycle continues from generation to generation and from families into churches and government. It is one of the great causes of today’s debilitating issues and goes virtually unaddressed. When you try to break the cycle, it is painful and difficult. But an unimaginable loveliness is on the other side of it.